Education, Thoughts of a Black Girl, Uncategorized

A Letter To Freshman Me

Dear Youngin’,

Wow! Who would’ve thought you’d be here today. Who would of thought you’d learn so much in the span of two and a half years. It’s crazy where life takes you and sometimes it’s difficult to understand the journey but don’t ever question it.

Looking back there’s so many things I wish I could tell you but the truth be told, I wouldn’t be able to sit here and have this wisdom if you didn’t go through the situations that not only bent you a little or a lot but molded you into a fearless young beast.

So here’s some things you should know.

You Are Powerful

Don’t ever question what you’re capable of. As cliche as it sounds you have the ability to make a difference and you know exactly what you want to accomplish. Do not let the world and those around you sway you away from your destiny and truth. You can honestly do anything you put your mind to and the only thing standing in your way is YOU. Go for it!

You Are Worth It

You are worth waiting for. You are worth someone who will really be a someone who will uplift you and not tear you down. You are worthy of  trust-filled friendships. You are worthy. Do not give into others demands because you feel as if you’re not worth this or that. Believe in your worth and know it without a doubt.

Stop Trying To Please Everyone

Look I get it. You’re new to this. You’ve never been on your own and had to deal with 4 roommates who are all completely different. You’ve never been separated from your friends of 10 years and had to make new ones but don’t feel like you have to make everyone happy. Not being rude but you physically cannot satisfy each and every person in your life. You just can’t and you know what? That’s Okay!

You Have Time

You are 18 years old. Don’t rush the process. You have plenty of time to be an adult. You have time to find a relationship. You have time to find a job and be free from your parents supporting you. Now at 21 I can say you’ll still struggle with this, it doesn’t just go away but really live in the moment. You’ll never be as young and free as you are today and take advantage of that. Live each day like it’s your last and enjoy it. Go to that party. Go to the dining hall with everyone even though you only have $15. Make the memories now because when your time does come and adulthood is really bestowed upon you. It’s these memories that will forever make you smile.

Call Home More

Check-in more than once a week. I know you’re busy and calling mom and dad just because seems pointless. I know mama calls at the absolute worst times and dad always calls at 8:30 on Saturday like you’re not still passed out from the night before but it’s just them missing you. Yes, you’re on your own now and an adult “technically” but you’ll always be their baby girl. They’re not being annoying, they’re just missing you.



What would you tell your freshman self?

Motivation, Thoughts of a Black Girl, Uncategorized

Learn & Adjust

Life is funny. That thing you told EVERYONE & they momma was coming never showed up. It wasn’t that you lied. In fact, you fact checked, signed, AND confirmed the estimated time of arrival with the ship handler. You got excited, shared with the world, and things took an unexpected turn for the left.

Remember that individual you spoke so poorly about? That individual who allowed her emotions to trump logic. Fast forward, you now find yourself going through a similar predicament, cringing while holding back tears because you can’t get a text back.

It seems as though just last week you were telling your best friend “I can’t believe this is happening to me,” or “seems like what I want will never come to pass.” But look at you now! Smiling, spiritual and mental health intact, flourishing and what not!

We’ve all been there. Again. Life is funny. The very thing or circumstances you never thought you would experience, you are now experiencing, they are now your truth! The vision we have in mind for ourselves seems so far away. However, although life is sure as hell FUNNY, the beautiful thing about it is that it keeps going and it’s NEVER too late to restart, recharge, and redirect YOUR path.

Tips To Stay Afloat


Be slow to speak
This is something I’m personally working on. It’s so easy to cast judgement on other people’s actions. Truth is, you never know how you will react to or handle a certain situation until you personally experience it. It’s human to have an opinion. It’s normal and completely OK to share. But understand that people’s actions very seldom have anything to do with you. Instead, they are a reflection of their upbringing, their mindset, and current emotional state. From the outside looking in, he or she may look dumb as hell. Understood, but never think you are better than someone because of what they are going through or how they approached something.

It took me three years to truly grasp the infamous “Move in Silence” quote. It is not to say go about things in a sneaky or shady manner. It is not to discourage you from sharing unestablished visions with loved ones. The thing about being so quick to disclose our plans is 1: Believe it or not you WILL have people praying against it. 2: It’s not necessarily that loved ones aren’t excited for you, but they don’t understand it, so may project their doubts and fears over you because they are only thinking from a carnal perspective so aren’t for the “risk taking.” P.s (no worries, they’ll most likely be on board when it comes to life, so don’t share every move.) 3: The world has an interesting way of counteracting efforts when you share too soon with too many! This being stated, I encourage you to write it down, set a plan, and actively takes steps to execute it!

Learn and Adjust
We all fall short. We all make mistakes. There’s consequences for all our actions. Good or bad, it’s never the end of the world! What matters is that we learn from them. What steps have you taken to ensure you won’t go through it again? Amazing people are placed in our life for a reason. Don’t be afraid to surround yourself and lean on some of them for support. Also, don’t be afraid to learn from others that are going through circumstances that you’d rather not experience. Like my grandma use to always tell us, “you don’t have to touch the stove too to know it’s hot if you just seen ya sister burn herself!”
Shit happens… Life isn’t always “fair.” What’s important is that you never give up. The idea is that you LEARN and ADJUST.

Push Through!
Keep moving forward. Stay focused on the goal. Disregard the naysayers. Know and own the fact that your heart desires can be brought to life!

Half way through the week and one day closer to greatness. Greatness being whatever specific goal that you are currently working towards. Drop a comment let us know some of your heart desires or words of encouragement for a fellow modern black beauty!